With all the people around me who are getting married I have been asked how to make a marriage work. Phew! That means I have fooled everyone into thinking I know what I’m doing. But the truth is, there is no one hard fact that can be applied to every marriage. Heck, I have been married for 15 years and I’m still figuring it out. 

To me, marriage is many things. It’s accepting his morning breath. It’s knowing her socks never match. It’s knowing he likes a cup of black coffee after work. It’s knowing she hates to wear a bra at home. 

It’s telling him he stinks when he forgets to put on deodorant. Or knowing she hates tuna fish. It’s staying up late to say good night when he gets home from work. Or making her a cup of coffee when she gets up for work. 

It’s watching a football game with him because he likes it even though you don’t. Or sitting through a romcom with her for the same reason. 

It’s knowing he collects rare coins. Or knowing her favorite thing on a Saturday is to cuddle and read together. 

It’s knowing that, when the chips are down and your backs against the wall, someone is in your corner, come what may. 

That’s marriage to me. 


I have a favorite quote I use all the time. It’s perfect for when you, or someone you know, is feeling unimportant. It’s from Doctor Who 

“In 900 years of travel through time and space I have never met anyone who was not important.” 

Just think about that for a moment. No matter what, you are important to someone and someone is glad you are alive….. Even if it is a mad man in a blue box šŸ˜œ

They say…

They say if you are not liberal before 30 you have no heart and if you are liberal after 30 you have no brain. 

As the political season kicks into high gear with the Presidential election in November, I am struck by how true the statement really is. 

This will be an interesting election, possibly one of the most important one of our lives. I am very curious to see how the American People will vote. 

Night and Day

What a difference a few weeks can make! I am my old self again, a self I had almost forgotten about, a self I ignored and allowed to fall by the wayside. 

We are in our own home now, our own space, and can do things our own way again. And people are noticing. My coworkers notice how I’m acting and the attitude change. Cowboy is noticing the difference and says his wife is back. Mini Cowboy has even noticed. 

What a difference a few weeks can make!